“I just accepted a new position but have received a better offer from another boat. I haven’t signed a contract with the first boat yet, but flights have already been booked. What should I do?”
That’s tough, but I’ve been there myself and know of other crew members that have been, too! Review both offers carefully and make sure that the second offer really is better. If it is, BE HONEST with the first boat and contact them as soon as possible. Don’t wait around to tell them as they have a job to get on with and responsibilities too. You don’t want to put them in the position of it being so last minute that they can’t find someone to fill in for you while they continue their search.
When you do reach out, be respectful and express your gratitude for the opportunity and recognize that you have likely put them in a tough position. They’re human, so it’s likely the response will be one of frustration and disappointment with a side of congratulations to you for the better gig. Any professional will realize that they would likely make the same decision if they were in your position. You could also try to negotiate with them. You never know, they might be able to meet the offer of the second boat, or even improve their original offer.
I actually hired the perfect stew for my program a few years back and was so excited to get him on board…but the phone call came that he had received a better offer. I couldn’t say anything other than congratulations as the offer he received was career defining. I was happy for him. At the end of the day, it’s ultimately your life and it’s important to make a decision that aligns with your career goals and values while handling the situation professionally.